Do You Want To Be Skinny Or Fit

Definition of Skinny - Means very thin.
Definition of Fit - means to be in good health, especially because of regular exercise and to be the right shape and size.
Making this distinction was something I have always struggled with in the past.  Every time I have failed in my weight loss struggles it was because I was looking to be skinny and not fit.  I admit that I fell into the social hype and joined the crowds as to what a person is "Supposed" to look like.
Society looks at those individuals who are the stars, the ones on the magazines and the ones on the news to determine what looks good.  And yes there are many "Skinny" people out there.  But a lot of those people are not truly healthy.  They have used diet alone to achieve something that looks good in clothes, but once they are naked the truth can be seen.  There are the un-healthy skinny people who look like their skin is falling off of their bones, some people are skinny fat and can fit in a size zero but have extra flesh in certain areas and should really aim to wear a size one.  Then you have the ones who look good in and out of their clothes, the models who seem skinny on the surface but are in fact fit.  They use a rigorous combination of diet and exercise to achieve a true look of health.
After many failed attempts and a lot of research I realized that to reach my goals in the "Me Initiative" I had to change my standard of body image.  I thought I wanted to be skinny when I have really always wanted to be fit.  I have curves and I am okay with that.  My entire life I have had what I call "Hawaiian Hips", a nice way to say I actually have a bottom and my thighs are bigger then someone who is tall with long muscles.  But they match perfectly with my muscular calves, short stature and smaller waist.  It has taken me years to determine that I am perfectly proportioned to myself.  Amazingly enough, the fact that I have two daughters who tower over me with long muscles helped me to see that there is an actual difference based on a person's height.  I am still working to meet my goal, but now that I am looking at my reality and not society's fantasy I know I will get there.
The first thing you need to do when deciding if you want to be fit or skinny is to choose standards for how you want to judge yourself.  People will always tell you that you are too skinny, too fat or too muscular.  Those people judge everyone based on what they look like and what they perceive as the standard.  The most important opinion is your own.  As long as you are pleased with your own physique it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
What standard are you judging yourself by?  Society's or your own?